Are you dating someone? Do you recall the honeymoon phase of the relationship?  B and I were talking tonight and she told me about how kick ass it was that we never had that awkwardness. I agree completely.

For those that are unsure what I mean…

The Honeymoon Phase is the time in dating where you are both on your best behavior. You’re both pulling out the stops and being the perfect someone for the other person. You’re both doing those things that you should do all the time, but it’s not really you… it’s the best possible version of you. Will it last? Nope, that’s why it’s called a phase. Sound familiar?

Guys… how many times you think back to when you started to date your girl, you remember how she used to do this or that… but now she doesn’t do that anymore. Ladies, how many times you see the guy being a gentleman and opening your car door for you, or helping you do something that was important to you, or just generally putting his life aside to put you first? Do you question if he puts you first? You shouldn’t have to, you should know he does.

See, it happens for both sexes. The Honeymoon Phase is real… usually.

For some reason… with B and myself… it never happened at all. See, the reasoning that we figured out… when we met we weren’t going to date. We were friends for awhile first. She saw me as I was getting out of my last relationship, hell, she even accidentally met the ex. She thought she was hot so I guess that’s good. haha (I know girls look at who you dated and if the girls were hot, you’re at least worthy… if you dated trolls, why the fuck would the hot girl want to date you?)

We never intended to date, we were friends and we’d hang out, do things together. B was one of the boys to me. I’d worked with models for the past ten+ years, dated a lot of them too… so pretty girls don’t have the same effect on me that they might with an average guy. Any photographer or webbie that works close with girls will tell you the same story. It’s not that we don’t notice hot women, it’s that we’re desensitized or something. We’re not effected to the point we think with our little heads as opposed to our big heads.

B knew what she was getting with me from the start, no hidden layers she had to peal back. I’m not perfect by any means, but she knew I was a gentleman, but she also knew I could be an asshole if pushed. It takes a lot for me to be a dick to someone, I’m generally a nice guy, I am not vindictive or anything. Mind you, if someone tries to fuck me over, then it’s on. Bryci has seen me lose my temper maybe twice and truthfully, that’s two times I’d like to take back. No, I didn’t kick her ass, haha.. she’s a tough one this girl, she’d have kicked mine. Plus, I’m not the violent type, I took Kenpo Karate at an early age so I would be in control of my emotions. It worked. I don’t snap, if anything, I’m far too chill for my own good.

With B, I knew exactly who she was before I started to ponder a life with her. She won me over not with her looks, but with her heart. The words she would speak, the compassion she shows to others and mostly, how she has made me honestly want to be a better person. Any woman that makes you want to be a better man… yup, she’s the keeper.

So no honeymoon phase for us, we side stepped it right into knowing who each other are.  Always nice when you feel at home with the person right from day one. Sure, we have moments of WTF with one another, who doesn’t? We’re human and as such, we’re prone to make errors along the way. That’s how it works I think? Errors are what teach us what works and what doesn’t.

B is my Angel, she keeps me sane. Sure, sometimes she also drives me crazy but I return that favor in spade, make no mistake. I’m a typical guy, I think too much. I over analyze shit like a lot of guys do, but I am learning to quiet the voices and just be. It’s nice when you can actually slow things down for yourself long enough to think clearly.

There isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for this woman, and she knows it. She knows I will always be here to keep her safe, warm and happy. Hell, she makes a bad ass tuna casserole, why on earth would I not want to be with this beautiful woman? She has been my plus one for the past three and a half years and we’re not slowing down, we’re picking up speed.

As for this very second… 2:17am (pst)… she’s been in bed for the past hour easily.. it’s time I creep into bed and try not to wake her as I do so. We’re shooting all day Wednesday with Ava, so that’ll be fun. Don’t forget, both of these beauties have cam shows today (Tuesday). Ava is on at 4PM PST and Bryci is on at 5pm PST.