Which are you? Of the two, if there are only these choices, I’m a geek.

Some people seem to think they are the same but they couldn’t be more wrong.

Also.. geeks get the girl.

Aren’t labels FUN?

Ps. Go buy my fucking book. It’s awesome. I teach you how to cook, how to tend to a flock of sheep and how to master Facebook.

I’m an expert on all things. Just ask me.

I’m kidding, calm down. No cooking, no sheep, no fb.

So we’re finally here! Wow, seems like just the other day it was 2011. Okay, it was sort of just the other, other, other day.. but anyway….

What does 2012 hold for you?

For me, more fun.

I pushed myself way to hard in 2011. Bryci tells me this over and over and she knows me better then I know myself, so it must be true.

So I figure fuck it, 2012 is time to turn back the clock on stress. Time to take back my life. Work less, live more.

I’ve started writing more, and I have many, *many* more books planned so that’ll be fun. I’m pondering a few topics right now. The path of least resistance is the goal. I know I could write a webmaster style book, detailing the how to of what I do but this might prove to be a pain in the ass. Not because I can’t write it or because I don’t know what I am talking about though. More like I’d piss off a few people.

This biz is ripe with drama, it blows for it. Some people are adults, others are children and that’s being polite. If you work in the biz, you know what I speak of.

My book would detail what I HAVE DONE, not what others do or what you should do. I’d write a book to myself, so if I could go back in time and hook James up with this ten years back, I’d have made less errors and had more positive outcomes. What would happen though, I’d have haters talking shit.

Haters gonna hate

No, I looked hard at Bella over my Christmas break and felt the direction for Bella was on track. I want to be more in the shadows with the ladies’ websites. What I mean is, if a model choses to do her entire site with webcam photos instead of full digital pix, that’s her call. I want to be the guy that says.. Hell yeah sister solider, I support your choice.

I love the Bellas, but I don’t want to be captain of the ship. I’d rather be the co-pilot. Some people out there might think I manage these ladies or I’m their manager etc. Nope, not true. Never have been, never will be. I think managers are, well, pointless. There, i said it. I am the best person to know what is right for me, fuck if I’d turn over my power stick to some manager so he/she can tell me what I should or shouldn’t do. I suppose this is another topic altogether isn’t it?

I did ponder writing a book dedicated to models, detailing my experiences (for what they’re worth anyway) with how to brand yourself, control your brand, good choices versus bad ones, outcomes either way etc but honestly, what the fuck do I know? I’m no model. I have no idea what the ladies go through. I can offer advice based on what i have seen but at the end of the day, we only take advice that we want to hear.

You ever ask someone for advice? They tell you something you don’t like, and although it might be great advice… what do you think? Pfffft. they’re an idiot. Fuck their advice.

We’re so stupid sometimes hey? haha. I know I’ve had my moments too.

I’d love to read a webbie book from a few people out there, more of a curiosity to see how they got to where they are. The issue I have found, is finding people that will be honest about things. It’s not easy opening yourself up. I was blunt in my book because I figured fuck it, why not. I might not win awards or even be that interesting, but I enjoyed writing it.

In 2012 what i can tell you about Bella is this. No new solo models that are fresh to the game. If a model contacts us that already has her shit together and is a hard worker, sort of like how Kiss Kara contacted us and joined Bella at the tail end of 2011, then sure, we’ll look at things. If she’s not a retard, and she doesn’t think we’re retards, who knows what the future may hold.

Evolution is the key to success right? Find like minded individuals and rock out with your cock out.

That’s what i always say.

Well, I’ve never actually said that.. but now I have.

Yes, the cocks are out. Both mine and Mere’s.

Enjoy your life people, it’s the only one you’ve got.

Now I am off to have a kick ass night with my lady. <3

Oh yeah, and cockblock. Fucking dog. So cute. Damn him.

My first book, Over Exposed, has been out now for a few days and so far, I’ve been blown away with the feedback. I wanted to write the book like a blog, so the person reading would feel I was talking to them. From what people are telling me, I guess it’s worked! Here are a few reviews from Amazon.com so far.

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Thanks for the feedback everyone! If you yourself wanted to buy the book but you don’t own a Kindle, you don’t actually need a Kindle to read the book. You can grab the free software for your computer or app for your mobile phone or tablet if you wish.

Thanks again for the feedback people! If you buy the book, please take a few seconds to review it.

I’ve already started my next book

My first book can be purchased here.

You ever have those times where you’re talking to your Mom or Dad and you slip up? You say something you wish you could take back. If there was a 30 second buffer app on the iPhone, where you could go back in time.. fuck yes.

Sadly, there is not.

My Mom calls today and we’re chatting and I slip that I’ve had a few book sales and I’m jazzed that people are liking my book. My Mom knows I always wanted to be an author, since I was a little boy. She always thought I’d write, as did my teachers. Why nobody told me this on the other hand, is another topic. My JamesDot book, Over Exposed, was more of a test for me. Would I have fun, would it come natural. Would I be able to form sentences without doing this —> ……… (those of you that read my blog are laughing, you know what I speak of).

So I tell my Mom, yaaaay My book is now on Amazon and I’ve sold some copies!

(insert silence)

(cricket noise here would be good)

Book?

What book? You wrote a book?

sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet is the only word going through my head right now

Yes Mom, a book. No, I won’t tell you the title. No, I wouldn’t email you a url. No linky for you Momma Bird.

Son, why?

Fantastic. I was hoping you’d ask why.

sigh. fml fml fml fml

I won’t tell you why Mom because although you know what I do for a living, we have a comfortable distance in place. You know I am a photographer and webmaster, yet you have never seen my adult photos or adult sites. It’s an understood barrier we know is there and respect. It keeps me from feeling like I am somehow not the son you raised and you from being put into a place of asking me why about anything.

I’m proud of what I do and who I am, but come on… your Mom is above and beyond all rules. You can sit there and yap at me all you like about being strong willed and fine with the choices you’ve made in life. Enter your Mom into the conversation and you’re ten years old again, wondering if she approves. Not the same for Dads, sorry fathers reading this. Yes you’re important too but Mom gave birth to us, raised us under her protective wing. She is the alpha, the omega. Make sense?

So after explaining that if I gave my Mom a copy of my book she’d know more then I am cool with her knowing, she understood. Well, she said she understood.

She most likely didn’t understand.

I’m sure I am the one with the issue here and she’d be fine with it all. I just didn’t want her knowing my JamesDot name, or the urls of my sites etc. It’d be strange and not my place to do. Not to mention family dinners with her and my Step Father would then be awkward as fuck.

Anywhoo…

I try and explain to her, or rather, I reason… if I was a dentist, you wouldn’t ask me who I operated on today and what procedure they had done. If I was a mechanic you wouldn’t ask if I replaced bushings today, or fixed the synchro-mesh in a transmission. It would be more like.. Oh, you’re a dentist? Cool. You’re a mechanic? Sweet. No details, i don’t get it so I won’t ask.

When it’s adult in nature though… everyone is an expert and everyone thinks they have a right to details. It’s the weirdest thing. Perhaps if I was in a different industry I’d view it the same way and have questions o’plenty for those I later learn are in the game. I understand curiosity, I don’t know why I am so protective over privacy. Most likely because of the way many people are.

Okay, my rant is done. =)

I hope you all had a great New Years celebration. Bryci, Jack and I spent the night watching blurays on our sofa. It was nice, quiet, warm.

So what New Years Resolutions did I make?

One – enjoy life more. Less work, more play.

I hope whatever decisions you made last night, hold through the year for you. Life is for the living people, don’t let it pass you by!

It was a long road getting here, but my first book, Over Exposed, is now available for sale in the Amazon store for anyone wanting it.

Click here to go check it out.

This book is currently only available for Kindle but it will be live for other formats shortly.

If you don’t own a Kindle, you can still buy this and read it on your PC if you want. Amazon offers Kindle software for both Mac and PC for free. It turns your computer, laptop or tablet into a Kindle basically.

Kindle for OS-X above (click the pic)

Kindle for PC above (click the pic)

Hope this helps if you want to read it or other books from Amazon.